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Apr 30, 2006 21:10:03 GMT -5
Post by mai on Apr 30, 2006 21:10:03 GMT -5
Some of you on here already know about my parent's issues. But for those of you who don't, my parents have been fighting all school year. My dad has had issues like this for as long as I can remember. We have to be careful what we say and do, I know it's not right but it's my life. They don't seem to stop, and whenever i think that it's going to get better, they argue and change my mind. Two weeks ago, my mom came home crying uncontrollably from a talk with my dad. The next day she asks how I would feel if they got a divorce. Apparently that's what her talk with my dad was about. I said I would support her in anything they decide to do. But then she brought up the fact that we might move for financial reasons if they did split up. Last night, she took my friend home and she asked me to get a flier for a house that was for sale in that neighborhood. Apparently, she has been looking for a while. Them being so close to divorce is extremely hard, especially because I'm the oldest and my sisters look for me for strength. I don't know if or how it's gonna work out, but I know my life's never gonna be the same. When she got that flier, it all became so much more. . . .real. Seeing that she's looking, means that they are even more serious than a few weeks ago. This just tops off my life. I don't expect anything from you guys, I just wanted to let you know what's going on. I'm so unsure of everything now, it scares me. That's how I'm feeling. Scared. The thought of everything, especially moving, makes me want to cry, but I'm not one to cry. I wish I could express how I'm feeling, but I can't. Again, I don't want anything from you. Thanks for reading this though.
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May 1, 2006 18:00:24 GMT -5
Post by fireflame on May 1, 2006 18:00:24 GMT -5
well even though u dont want anything i am going to give u a posting hug *gives mai a huge hug*
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May 2, 2006 18:01:30 GMT -5
Post by mai on May 2, 2006 18:01:30 GMT -5
thanks FF. it's odd to actually want a hug, but i do.
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May 9, 2006 22:17:19 GMT -5
Post by fireflame on May 9, 2006 22:17:19 GMT -5
well here then *hug*
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May 9, 2006 22:28:19 GMT -5
Post by Sakerra on May 9, 2006 22:28:19 GMT -5
In a way, I know how you feel. Are you all ready for this? You get to hear something from my past. *gasp*
The summer after sixth grade and early seventh grade it was a possibility in my house to. It scared me to no end because I am very close to all of my siblings and I couldn't imagine living with out them, which would be what happened because no one parents could take care of all eight. And like you, my baby sisters looked to me for strength. My brothers were unemotional, or at least they didn't show it, and it was hard on me. It was hard on us all. For a while, I hated my parents for it. I was mad at them for trying to ruin everything. In a way, I still am mad. They may still be together, but never mind. Stopping with that thought.
Anyway, a little advice from some one who has been there. Since you are looked up to, be as optimistic as possible about it, and depending on the little kids ages, talk with them. Ask them how they feel and try to comfort them. It's a scary thing and it's not easy on any one. If you ever need to talk, you have my MSN. However, if it says that I am away, I really am, but if you leave a message, I will get back to you ASAP. Take care, and know that we are here.
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May 10, 2006 21:30:12 GMT -5
Post by mai on May 10, 2006 21:30:12 GMT -5
Thanks Sakerra. sorry you had to go through all this junk, too. it's way hard, but i guess it's getting easier. i shouldn't say that. it isn't any easier, i'm just adapting. but right now, i really am not happy with either of my parents, and i just want them to figure it all out and right now i think it might be easier if they divorced. again, not easiser, nothing is going to be easier, but i think in the end we would all be happier and my dad wouldn't mess things up in the future, as i suspect he will. my mom just needs to stand up to him and tell him no more chances. but she won't. i just want to tell them that i want to be a normal teenager, thinkning about the guys i like, the party i want to have and go to, not who i'll be with when it's my next birthday, or who i'm going to be with this weekend. i want to lead as normal of a life as i can, and they're messing it up. life is hard enough without all of this.
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May 10, 2006 23:08:33 GMT -5
Post by Sakerra on May 10, 2006 23:08:33 GMT -5
Just be strong. I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but it's all that can be said really. There will come a point when things will work our, and maybe not exactly the way you will want, but it will happen.
As for being a "normal teenager" I've decided they don't exist. I've talked to many, many people and everyone has something making them different, or giving them problems. Some more than others. If all you want to think about are guys are party's then go for it! Make up your mind to do that, and don't let anything interfere. What it comes down to is we all need to make our own decisions and then live with the consequences.
Personally, at that point in time, I choose to totally screw up my life, and I wouldn't suggest taking that path. No, wouldn't suggest it at all. Very bad idea. Anyway, to quote Dr. Seuss "Be what you want and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter, don't mind." Best of luck Mai, and just remember you can be and do whatever it is you so decide or desire.
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