Mai's issue

[Sakerra]

mai said:

I double posted so that it wouldn't be confusing. My problem is with my friends. Last year I was in 6th grade and had a ton of friends. This year, they all went to different schools. My best friend for three years is now going to Midvale Middle School and she has changed a lot. She has called me about once a week ever since school started and we talk. When I say we, I mean she. I don't have very many friends this year, I am having problems making new friends, I don't know where I fit in, and I really don't like school. She calls and tells me about all of her new friends, how many classes she has with my old group of friends, and how wonderful her life is. She doesn't get that I am having problems and that she isn't helping any. The only reason she ever asked me about how I was liking school was after I talked with her parents when I dropped off a b-day party invitation (and at my party she didn't say a single thing to me and didn't even try to talk to me) and told them how much I didn't like school. You could tell that she was only asking because her parents told her to. She is turning stuck up and gossips way too much. She is not the person I knew, and I don't know what to do. I know that the person I knew is somewhere inside her, but she doesn't want to be that person. I really don't want to lose her, but I don't like the person she is turning into. She is having a party on Friday, and the only reason I am going is to see my other friends, but I don't know how that is going to work because I really don't want to see her new friends. The hardest part about when we talk is that I always tell her that I miss her and that she should transfer and one) she doesn't say anything about that and two) she never says she misses me or anything like that at all. It hurts more than I think she'll ever know. What do I do?

[Sakerra]

tsuki said:

I'm sorry mai, that's an awful thing to have happen...i really don't have much experience because I never had any friends before I moved into this neighborhood. I say, If she is turning into the kind of person that you don't want to hang out with, then tell her to stop calling you (or give me her phone number, I promise she won't call you ever again...). But If you were really good friends before, then keep trying, she may be acting weird because she is trying to figure out if you have changed, or she may feel embarrassed because even though she misses you and wants to transfer school's, she may not be willing to step out of her comfort zone. I can't judge her feelings on the subject I haven't met her, and if I did at you BD party she didn't stay around me for long...bwaaa ha ha. I think that you should keep trying, tell her how you feel about things and what your interested in, you've probably changed too.

[Sakerra]

foureyedjack said:

Hey Mai, I have a same sort of delima. My best friend for two years was going on a power trip. I was just nice to her but her head kept getting bigger and bigger till she could have worn the school as a hat. Then she transfered, she's still in my seminary class though. I was just nice and for the most part tryed to ignore her. It didn't work, she kept hitting me but thats ok. We likes to eat sqqiuuells. (I guess I have to be an optimis sometimes, don't I? I'm usually not)

For tsuki all I can say is I'm here for you. I've never been through anything like that. Its not right that parents should do that to their kids. I mean, they should be the one coimfortaing you, not you comforting them adn to use you canineness like that is just uncalled for on your dads part. The last time I bared my teeth was when my power-tripped friend punched me in the face. It was sort of fun to see her cower like the little house cat she is. (My spelling and grammer suck. Sorry)

yokohoshi said:

Mai-in the age you and the rest of us are going through it is normal not to know where you fit in my advice to you would be to decide where you want to fit in and then get your self there. and I told you this already and I don' t mean to sound harsh but people change and become other people I have done so my self and it might amaze you if you could see the person I use to be. when friends change for the worst they are holding back your social life and making you unsure of your self my advice: ditch them.

Tsuki- this is not really advice for you I guess but comments for others we have disscussed your issue before and all I can say is I'm here with an open willing ear. and I hope you would come to me. to others just random thoughts I had on Tsuki's situation. When children become adults but are still children it is child abuse in whatever form it may come in that is what it is. To Tsuki (sorry being random) your dad needs help and if he doesn't get it it affects your life and I know it is hard but you know my issues with my father here is my advice 1) pray for him (I know you love him and that is reason enough to pray for him (even if that love is not always evident) , but the lord has said pray for they enemies, and I know he is not your enemy but at times he plays the part) 2) let him know write him a note be kind and careful but let him know say something like ( don' t really write this exactly) Dad I love you and I aprecciate all you do for me. But I have lost my childhood and I am only 14 I would like an oppertunity to be a teen but that will require work on both our parts and then say some thing about not being fair.

Well this is my prob.- I will make this short- My father, we will call him rob for these proposes because my mom has a habit of reading over my shoulder so this is how it goes He plays Pokemon a card game all the time with my bro's he spend excive amounts of money on it and never pays me any mind I find my self hateing him what do I do?

[Ed]

Whats with the quotations, Sakerra?

Edit note: Learn to spell my name..

[yokohoshi]

So Mai give us an update on the situation.

[mai]

Well, I really hate the whole situation. I went to her party, and I think that she would have been just as happy without me there. I was ignored by all but McKay, and it was still not very serious. I would try to talk and then I would realize that no one was listening and so I would stop, usually in the middle of a sentence, and no one noticed. I was having a really hard time because all they talked about and were interested in was what was going on at their school. Their point of veiw about life and the world are not like they used to be. For instance, they were throwing junk at president bush for all of these dumb reasons, and saying that he should die. Like when he went to war with Iraq. We didn't really have a choice, and they were blaming him for all of the hurricane damage, and they were talking bad about people I know used to be their friends. It was really hard to listen to, and I could tell that they all have changed. No one asked about me, or even really aknowledged that I was there. I wanted to yell at them, but I didn't. I tried to be open and to have a good time. I went home and wanted to cry. I looked at the pictures I have, and the ones I have show how I remember them. They were happy and always smiling and had such a positive look on things, and it mad me so sad because they aren't like that anymore. They always can see the negative stuff, and it was harder to get them to really laugh. They are so different. I went home, and I wanted to cry. But it doesn't do anything. I am trying to forget about them, but it is really hard when they all send me forwards and stuff and I remember what they were like. I still am having problems with them.

[mai]

i wish i was with my cousins. ryan would understand. i miss him and them! *throws head down in frustration* 4e4wfaejyhuj *sigh* ryan.

[benjiro]

hey, i used to have the same problem. my bad if this is resolved already but hey. i have switched schools every year since i started middle school. i know how hard it is to make new friends and seem new to everybody. i just learned to be yourself. if your friend is being stuck up and not talking to you just start the conversation yourself, and if that does not work find some new friends. life is all about having fun, and gettin stuff done, and u cant do either of those if you dont have friends to support u.

Benjiro/Will